Stories & Bricks - You Are Worthy
The Fulling team has begun a new video lesson! Each week in our staff meetings, we watch a culture & leadership video to aid in our professional and personal development. We are currently watching “Stories and Bricks” from John Delony. Delony was one of the featured speakers at the most recent EntreLeadership Summit and we will be watching the recording of his lesson from the Summit.
“You are worth more than the worst things you have done.”
In the final portion of his lesson, Delony shares with the audience, “You’re worth more than the worst things you’ve done.” Delony encourages us to acknowledge our brick (a.k.a. our traumatic experiences) and set it down. To become well, you need a plan to deal with your bricks.
The next thing to do in order to find wellness is to invest in relationships. “Resist the lie that you can do this by yourself,” says Delony, “you cannot.” He continues by saying, “A community helps define your calling. They tell you what you need. And they are good and hard and right…Other people are your emergency fund for life.”
Delony then transitions the lesson to share how we can deal with other people’s bricks. If you are a good leader, other people will bring their struggles to you. He shares about psychological condition called Secondary Traumatic Stress where one carries another’s trauma and stress as if it were their own. In other words, the take people’s bricks and put them in their own backpack. When dealing with other people’s bricks, Delony says you must have a process for dealing with the bricks that others hand you. Listen to and love the people who come to you, give them the tools they need, but choose to not try to solve all their problems. “You cannot own the consequences of anybody other than yourself,” says Delony. Have a plan of care. Listen to them, momentarily hold their brick for them, then hand it back and point them in ways of wellness they can go.
The next thing to do when dealing with other’s bricks is to “hose your boots off”. “Refuse to poison your home with other people’s drama,” says Delony. We have to leave work at work and be present where we are. This could be achieved by playing music you love on the ride home, stopping by a coffee shop to write down your feelings, stopping by the gym after work, etc. “Assume beauty,” says Delony. Believe the best about others and don’t sit in anger. Finally, Delony tells us, “Don’t be a martyr. Choose optimism and joy.”
“You deserve to be well.”
- John Delony
Food for thought…
Do you have a plan for building more/deeper relationships?
Here are some of our team’s ideas: Intentionally build community, open up and be vulnerable about the hard things, share the low point of your week with someone, or use conversation cards to help the conversation go deeper.
Are you tempted to take other peoples’ bricks and put them in your backpack?
How can you ‘hose your boots off’ at the end of the day when you work from home?